15 Things Real Friends Do Differently

As we grow, we realize it becomes less important to have more friends and more important to have real ones.

Remember, life is kind of like a party. You invite a lot of people, some leave early, some stay all night, some laugh with you, some laugh at you, and some show up really late. But in the end, after the fun, there are a few who stay to help you clean up the mess. And most of the time, they aren’t even the ones who made the mess. These people are your real friends in life. They are the ones who matter most.

Here are 15 things real friends do differently:

They face problems together. – A person who truly knows and loves you – a real friend – is someone who sees the pain in your eyes while everyone else still believes the smile on your face. Don’t look for someone who will solve all your problems; look for someone who will face them with you.
They give what they can because they truly care. – One of the biggest challenges in relationships comes from the fact that many of us enter a relationship in order to get something. We try to find someone who’s going to make us feel good. In reality, the only way a relationship will last, and give us joy in the long-term, is if we see our relationship as a place we go to give, and not just a place we go to take. Yes, of course it is okay to take something from a relationship too. But both sides should be giving. It can only be a ‘give and take’ if BOTH SIDES are GIVING. That’s the key.
They make time for each other. – It’s obvious, but any relationship without any face time is going to have problems. You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot in someone’s life. Never force someone to make a space in their life for you, because if they truly care about you, they will create one for you.
They offer each other freedom. – A healthy relationship keeps the doors and windows wide open. Plenty of air is circulating and no one feels trapped. Relationships thrive in this environment. Keep your doors and windows open. If this person is meant to be in your life, all the open doors and windows in the world won’t make them leave.
They communicate effectively. – It’s been said many times before, but it’s true: great communication is the cornerstone of a great relationship. If you have resentment, you must talk it out rather than let the resentment grow. If you are jealous, you must communicate in an open and honest manner to address your insecurities. If you have expectations of your partner, you must communicate them. If there are any problems whatsoever, you must communicate them and work them out. And communicate more than just problems – communicate the good things too.
They accept each other as is. – Trying to change a person never works. People know when they are not accepted in their entirety, and it hurts. A real friend is someone who truly knows you, and loves you just the same. Don’t change so people will like you. Be yourself and the right people will love the real you. If you feel like changing something about your friend, ask yourself what change you can make in yourself instead.
They are genuine, and expect genuineness. – As Leo F. Buscaglia once said, “Never idealize others. They will never live up to your expectations. Don’t over-analyze your relationships. Stop playing games. A growing relationship can only be nurtured by genuineness.” Don’t play games with people’s heads and hearts. Remember, love and friendship don’t hurt. Lying, cheating and screwing with people’s feelings and emotions hurts. Always be open, honest, and genuine.
They compromise. – Real friends meet in the middle. When there’s a disagreement, they work out a solution that works for both parties – a compromise, rather than a need for the other person to change or completely give in.
They support each other’s growth changes. – Our needs change with time. When someone says, “You’ve changed,” it’s not always a bad thing; sometimes it just means you’ve grown. Don’t apologize for it. Instead, be open and sincere, explain how you feel, and keep doing what you know in your heart is right.
They believe in each other. – Simply believing in another person, and showing it in your words and deeds, can make a huge difference in their life. Studies of people who grew up in dysfunctional homes but who grew up to be happy and successful show that the one thing they had in common was someone who believed in them. Do this for those you care about. Support their dreams and passions and hobbies. Participate with them. Cheer for them. Be nothing but encouraging. Whether they actually accomplish these dreams or not, your belief is of infinite importance to them.
They maintain realistic expectations of their relationship. – No one is happy all the time. Friends must keep realistic expectations of each other. Notice when you’re projecting something onto the other person that has nothing to do with them, like a fear from a past relationship, and then make an effort to let it go. Recognize when you’re looking for that person to do something for you that you need to do for yourself, like making you feel lovable or take care of your needs, and then release those expectations and do it for yourself.
They honor each other in small ways on a regular basis. – Honor your important relationships in some way every chance you get. Every day you have the opportunity to make your relationship sweeter and deeper by making small gestures to show your appreciation and affection. Remember, making one person smile can change the world. Maybe not the whole world, but their world. Your kindness and gratitude matters. Make an effort to really listen – not just wait to talk. See the other person as if for the first time. It’s all too easy to take someone for granted. Really notice all the wonderful things they do, and let them know what you see.
They listen, and they hear every word. – Giving a person a voice, and showing them that their words matter, will have a long-lasting impact on them. Less advice is often the best advice. People don’t need lots of advice, they need a listening ear and some positive reinforcement. What they want to know is often already somewhere inside of them. They just need time to think, be and breathe, and continue to explore the undirected journeys that will eventually help them find their direction.
They keep their promises. – Your word means everything. If you say you’re going to do something, DO IT! If you say you’re going to be somewhere, BE THERE! If you say you feel something, MEAN IT! If you can’t, won’t, and don’t, then DON’T LIE. Real friends keep promises and tell the truth upfront.
They stick around. – The sad truth is that there are some people who will only be there for you as long as you have something they need. When you no longer serve a purpose to them, they will leave. The good news is, if you tough it out, you’ll eventually weed these people out of your life and be left with some great people you can count on. We rarely lose friends and lovers, we just gradually figure out who our real ones are.

Ten Things You Should Never Say To Your Music Teacher

Dahila:

interesting,isn’t?

Originally posted on The Trombonist's Mouthpiece:

Inspired by an excellent post by SamPsychMeds.

We teachers hear lots of different things from our students throughout the day. Some of it brings a big smile to our faces, some of it warms our hearts, and some of it reaffirms why we became teachers. This post is not about those things.

1. Are we playing today? No, we’re not making music in music class today.

2. Can I go down to [insert teacher here]’s class for some extra help? Sure, as long as they send you down here during their class so you can catch up on some of the stuff you missed.

3. I forgot my instrument. That’s cool. I forgot to wear pants today.

4. This piece is dumb. Actually, if you can give me a couple of valid musical reasons for not liking a piece, I might let it slide. Maybe.

5. I can’t make…

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Why is it that some people don’t understand that breaking up a relationship is not all about ‘i don’t love her or him anymore’, its not about ‘one of the parties meeting a better person’. Its high time we all knew that relationships are not just what we start whenever we want and then end whenever we want also. it’s about you been committed,been serious even if its just a simple friendship, its worth be treasured cause it involves your hearts(i.e the two parties).

Nobody wanna be friend with someone that hurts people. you don’t have to hurt people’s feelings before you are been recognized as a popular person, you earn respect when you respect others, ‘a law of nature’.

Let it be widely known that some girlfriends or boyfriends don’t breakup with their partners all just because they don’t love them again but because they have no choice, they have no choice than to let them go probably because they love their partners so much to the extent that the best way to keep them is to let them off the hook and be just friends.

You know, sometimes some relationships would have been better if only they remained at friendship, you proceeding into a ‘mutual relationship’ might ruin the whole thing you have been building all this while. Not all friendships should end as  relationships.Not at all.

Live to enjoy your friendship rather than ruining it because of some unpardonable desires.

Hey, don’t get me wrong, i never said all friendships should not end as relationships, i said some.Only the ones who know that they can keep the relationship should go into it, believe me, not everybody can maintain relationships, not everyone is mature enough to give what it takes.NOT EVERYBODY CAN.

 

Khloe Kardashian: Saying That Lamar Odom Wasn’t Her Soul Mate?

Dahila:

really????

Originally posted on Hollywood Life:

As Khloe and Lamar continue to struggle with their relationship, the reality TV star uploaded a message on Oct. 31 that seemed to suggest that she already knows it’s over.

Khloe Kardashian is fighting to keep her marriage with Lamar Odom afloat, but after the struggling athlete reportedly partied hard on Oct. 30, she seemed to acknowledge that it’s a battle she cannot win. Is a divorce coming?

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Seated on my bed, and my mind went through the day. How gracious it is to hand over each day into the hands of God.

‘Ugo, wake me in an hours time’ was the last statement i made yesterday night, only to wake up around 5 this morning with the fear that i have nothing in my head for the psychology test i was going to have later in the day. With all these running through my head, my roommate, Ugo, reminded me of the jogging which was scheduled for 5:30…remembering this all together with the test i have not read for, i became very scared and all i could think of was test! test!! test!!!.

I got up from my bed, knelt down and committed my day in God’s hand cos i had the feeling that it was going to be a stressful one…i prayed and told Him to help me with the day (even if i have not done this for days). I went for the jogging, came back to my room around 7:30am of which i was to be in class by 8am. I had the fastest bath i ever imagined, within 30 minutes i was in class already. Immediately i stepped into the class, the doors were shut. All i could say was ‘thank you God'(the first round of my prayer was answered) .

All my lectures ended 12 noon so i had the opportunity to read for the test which was to take hold 5pm. I had to force myself to read all i haven’t read( that was my punishment for sleeping when i was meant to read). When it was 4:30, i left for the lecture room where i was to have the test, the test started at exactly 5pm, i could not believe my eyes when saw multiple-choice questions, infact i was the happiest on earth, i went through the questions, they were just as too easy than i could imagine…i started and after 30minutes i was through and i submitted my script to the lecturer with a big smile on my face.

On my way back to the hostel with my friends, i remembered how for the first time in weeks, i knelt down to pray to God to help me with my day and how He made everything work out for my good. How even later in the day when i was thinking of what to eat, favor came my way.

It is a great and nice thing to commit your day and even life as a whole the into the hands of the one that created you, He watched you sleep like a baby and fought all the battles for you while you were fast asleep, inviting Him into your day shouldn’t be too difficult. He longs to hear you call His name everyday just the way you greet your mother, father,wife, friends and colleagues. He loves to hear you say ‘Good morning Jesus’ when you wake up, He longs to hear you talk to Him like a best companion.

He doesn’t want too much of your time, just 20 minutes out of your 24hrs is enough, speak to Him like a brother, a friend, a companion and trust me He will direct you through out the day and even tell you what to do in all situations.You will just see things work out your own way.

 

Kourtney Kardashian and Scott Disick Having Lots Of Sex Again — Report

Dahila:

hoping to see a new baby soon

Originally posted on Hollywood Life:

Kourtney and Scott are back at it! The pair have reportedly been hitting the sheets — which is totally surprising, since they sleep in separate bedrooms on ‘Keeping Up With The Kardashians.’ They just can’t keep their hands off each other as their honeymoon phase is back for round two, according to a new report!

It doesn’t look like the Kardashian family’s love woes apply to Kourtney Kardashian and Scott Disicks relationship. The two have allegedly been having non-stop sexcapades — and it looks like there’s no stopping them! Read on to find out how the couple is spicing it up.

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